Negative to hide negative – isn’t it funny when your ego defies your own ego based on a technicality?

To cover up things is one of the most basic instincts of human life. Though we claim a lot to live by the instincts of other animals, we, as a social animal, in my opinion, fail the species.

How hard is it to admit a simple truth and get things done with? Pretty simple! Right?

But that is one of the hardest tasks when it comes to an individual behavior. For a bitter truth that may appear rude and negative, we come up with something smoother but more negative when viewed from a macro perspective. Let us take an example to have a better hold of the thought.

An example

Suppose you are talking to a person over a phone call and suddenly you do not feel like continuing with the conversation. You have an easy option to relay your true feelings and disconnect the call. But the human instincts prevent us from that. The most common thing we would do in such an occasion is behaving rudely with the person.

Is it the outcome of the event that you do not want to carry on with the conversation?

I don’t think so. I would rather term it as a cause for something more negative. I would term it is a semi-psychological warfare where you build up the stress on the other person and project them to get done with the call.

Why?

Don’t you have enough strength to admit the truth or is it that you just don’t want people to realize how rude you actually are? Or is it that your ego cannot accept such an action and it knows that you would end up in guilt?

If you would end up in guilt, then why do you need to do that? You wish the other person to take on the responsibility so that you can put the blame on them. Rather you force them to take on the blame. The worse part of the situation is it might have appeared less rude if you could simply ask the person to disconnect the call rather than formulating a long effecting solution that actually is ruder.

Appearances can be deceitful. Or is it that the bad behavior was really an outcome of your frustration? Is that what you would say to rationalize your actions? If you consciously believe and trust that to be the truth, it is an extremely heart lifting apology. But if you yourself know that it is just a cover-up for the real cause, then its effect is going to be really something else.

So what would you do? What can you do?

Can you truly accept yourself, and in the process obliterating the hypocrisy to blurt out the brute truth or you will just ‘sugarcoat’ things with ‘chili flakes’ and present something that is actually the going to be the cause for something worse and more long lasting?

Well, if you would simply describe your feelings and disconnect the phone then there are chances that the other person will understand how you feel and why you feel and may take steps to correct the wrong. But when you start acting all rude and changed, deviated away from the real cause of the action, thus developing a new cause for something more negative, you may end up broadening the gap. You add to the person’s confusion and allure him into more darkness rather than helping them to look for a solution. They cannot even beat around the bush if they do not know where the bush is.

Or is it that you expect them to know just the way feel when you yourself have no idea of how what and why you feel?

If you really wanted that then why would you accept or make the call in the first place?

So what exactly is your ego? That you lack the reciprocation? Or is it that your expectations are not met? Don’t tell me it is just because you fail to accept yourself and end up imposing things on others. Well, your ego is fooling itself, to be frank. Maybe you are enjoying a feeling of being smart enough to turn the table, but deep down in your subconscious and unconscious, your true ego truly knows who is to blame and exactly for what.

We are here to help you see. While we can only teach how to see, we cannot teach anyone what to see. If they lack the eyes they can be helped. But for anyone who prefers to keep the eyes closed, God help them.

To sum up, this is one sudden realization that I suddenly came up with when I was watching over the actions of someone I know. Though my opinion is pretty clear on how things get represented and how deceitful appearance can be, I request you to come forward and answer the question if it is the right way to deal with things in life and blaze the flames to that burn you and use that increased fire to set the opposite one on it too? Will it satiate your wounds or will it prevent you from suffering further burns?

None! It will just drag you into the fire of hell and both of you will continuously burn in the fire as long as you both co-exist and there would be no escaping. Nice memories and quality time may cover it up, but will hardly be a matter of time that the fire will find its way back up to radiate the brightest flames of ego. If you really want to get detached, you should not really care how they feel and blurt out the most hated truth right to their face. If not, why act and make things toxic? Of course your ego may be the prime contender in the macro view of life, but for the macro view, it is the truth and the emotion that will ultimately be the prime contender that should win.